Tuesday, 19 February 2019
1- ‘Porn makes a bad society’. Wrong: data shows that sexual crimes are lower in areas where there is greater access to porn. This phenomenon is observed widely: it is common knowledge that when sex is repressed, people can demand it in ways that are inappropriate.
2- ‘Porn creates objectification’. Wrong: objectification is focusing on a body parts and making it an object of sexual gratification, without considering the whole human being. Research in sexual fantasies show that men and women, even those who do not watch porn objectify. In fact, it seems that objectification is a part of sexual desire and sexual arousal. Some people may objectify more than others, but, it is largely a normal human thing to do. However, when men objectify, it can be perceived as being more threatening, understandably, because of the number of men being sexually violent to women. Another interesting study shows that many men focuses on the performers’ faces rather than body parts, as what is most arousing is the look of pleasure. Men and women both have fantasies that have emotional component, but we tend to express it in different ways. Men are not from Mars and Women are not from Venus. We all are from the same Erotic planet.
3- ‘Porn creates relationship problems’. Wrong: porn is the easy and convenient way to make an exit to avoid the problems in the relationship but it doesn’t create relationship problems. Other things create relationship problems. Like sexual shame, high morals, contempt, anger, power struggles, low self-esteem, distorted beliefs about sex and relationships, insecurities, and so on.
4- ‘Porn creates erectile dysfunction’. Wrong: this is a popular view promoted by anti-porn campaigns that is fiercely inaccurate and unscientific. Erectile dysfunction and other sexual problems pre-date watching porn: porn is the easiest area of enjoying one’s sexuality without the anxiety of performance, so it is more enjoyable. True scientific research finds that the erections and orgasms with porn can be of better quality: it can truly be a special quality sexual time with yourself.
5- ‘Porn pornifies the brain and re-wires it negatively, the brain needs to be re-booted’. Wrong: this is another popular opinion that has no bases in sciences. It is so popular that there are some anti-porn, anti-masturbation organizations using the word ‘reboot’ in their slogans. I’m going to burst your bubble again: the brain is not a computer and there is no re-boot button. The brain never reboots as it continuously develops. Once we watch something that titillates us, it tends to stay in the brain and we tend to return to it. The same process happens if we watch something that repulses us, we tend to stop watching it and never return to it (which disproves another inaccurate view that porn watching escalates to places we don’t want to go to: wrong). The brain keeps re-wiring itself based on experiences that we have. If we keep having anxiety-filled experiences having sex with someone and anxiety-free watching porn, porn will continue to be more attractive. Stopping watching porn and stopping masturbating for 90 days isn’t going to reboot your brain. In fact it’s going to increase your sexual shame and your anxiety. And it won’t teach you how to have anxiety-free sex with partners the way you want to, which is the crux of the problem, actually.
6- ‘Watching porn leads to paedophilia, sexual offending and sexual violence towards women’. Wrong: this is probably the most fear-mongering propaganda against porn. In fact, proper research consistently proves the opposite. Paedophilia and sexual offending are specific areas of pathology and psychological disturbance. Watching porn and masturbating is not pathological and does not indicate psychological problems.
7- ‘Porn is addictive’. Wrong: this is also a very popular belief based on moralistic opinions rather than science. The use of pornography is being consistently rejected from all medical and psychological bodies as there is no clinical evidence of addictive properties to porn. the World Health Organisation (WHO) which has made a diagnostic criteria for compulsive sexual behaviours (ICD-11), and which is very much led by scientific evidence, has explicitly rejected the idea of ‘sex addiction’ and ‘porn addiction’.